A nationally recognized author and codependency expert examines the roots of shame and its connection with codependent relationships. Learn how to heal from their destructive hold by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you, and lead to healthier relationships.
Shame: the torment you feel when you’re exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It’s a deeply painful and universal emotion, yet is not frequently discussed. For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships—where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another—often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors. Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be.
In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.
5.0 out of 5 stars Best Codependency Book Out There! November 28, 2016, By Madcat1776
One of the best books on codependency out there, in my opinion. If you are seeking understanding about codependency, or understanding yourself or a loved one, this book has everything you need. Highly recommended!
5.0 out of 5 stars That was the best Kindle purchase I’ve ever made July 21, 2016 By Amazon Customer
It’s like the author looked into my soul and wrote a book about me. I just finished chapter 2 and have already written 27 pages of notes…This book is giving me a bit of hope as I can relate to every single word it says. I had no idea people experienced what I experience daily. It’s a sense of comfort that I can’t describe, realizing that I’m not crazy or a different breed of human. Tears are streaming down my face because I can’t thank the author enough for this “gift” she has given me – validation for everything I have been feeling all my 38 years of life.
5.0 out of 5 stars LOVE IT, January 15, 2015 By Gina
This book is a life changer!! It is spot on!! I have read other books on codependency, but I have to say this is one of the best. Love Love Love it!!
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars, July 22, 2015 By Janine Eganon
Top notch reading. The most helpful book I have read on the subject of Codependency. Ms Lancer’s writing style is clear and concise and her book is full of insights into the workings of the codependent mind. It has given me answers to questions I have had for most of my life and, in so doing, has brought about a lot of positive changes for me. I feel validated and understood and overwhelmingly relieved to learn that I’m not crazy after all. That there is rhyme and reason to the dark labyrinth of my mind. Ms Lancer’s book shines a light on the path towards freeing ourselves from the dark places in our minds and all those self-defeating behaviors that trip us up and lead us back into the labyrinth of shame. I do not exaggerate when I say that this one book has taught me more about myself … who I am and why … and the ways in which shame has affected every aspect of my life than anything else I have read. It has given me hope and inspired a better future for myself. I thoroughly recommend this book to anyone who is genuinely interested in becoming the best version of yourself that you can be.
5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful and practical ways to overcome shame, October 12, 2014 by Steve Heller
Great book. I’ve read Brene Brown’s work, which is research based and good and Darlene Lancers’ book offers so much more insight and practical guidance mined from her years of experience as a therapist. If you want to have healthier relationships and live a happier life, this book is a great tool!
5.0 out of 5 stars A Life Changing Liberating Book
April 21, 2015 By Chartered Psychologist (England)
I recently found this brilliant book by Darlene Lancer and quickly realized it is probably the best ‘self-help’ book I have ever read, recommended or used (over a period of 40 years as a Psychologist). Both content and process are spot on and it is also a very readable and useful book.This is a life changing book which everyone should read. This is likely to be the best money you have ever spent.
5.0 out of 5 stars I just started reading Conquering Shame and Codependency, July 31, 2014 by TG
I just started reading Conquering Shame and Codependency and I already feel so relieved. The explanation of the shame piece was a real epiphany! I’ve been on a path of recovery for the past 20+ years but this book has the missing information that I have been looking for. Thank you for writing it.
5.0 out of 5 stars At last a book about being truly human August 11, 2015, By Anonymous
I have found that since reading this book that it has finally cast a spotlight on the quagmire of my deepest beliefs about myself and how I can truly start to honor myself and challenge these crippling beliefs. I’ve found that I am much more open to my therapy sessions and I actually feel a sense of hope. I can not recommend this book highly enough. Each page is filled with wisdom. I feel armed to really Have the knowledge and tools to start to live my life from a much more healthier place. Some one give this lady a Nobel piece prize because I can sense the inner conflict in my life beginning to subside. Thank you so much Ms. Lancer
5.0 out of 5 stars From A Codependent Author and Fan, July 24, 2014 By Lisa A. Romano
As Darlene breaks the concepts down, the reader begins to soften its hate towards the innocent Self–and in so doing, Darlene is able to send her healing intent directly to the heart of her reader right where the healing journey must begin.
GOOD JOB DARLENE!!!! Namaste…