Codependency author and expert Darlene Lancer explains the narcissist’s mind and motives and the personality of their partners. Dealing with a Narcissist reveals the unconscious forces driving their mutual attraction and relationship dynamics and sheds light on the damaging impact narcissists have on their partners and children. This is also workbook with strategies that can improve your self-esteem and help you maintain your self-respect and set boundaries in relationships with addicts, narcissists, or emotionally abusive people.
If you were at first charmed by a narcissist, you soon had to contend with self-centeredness, defensiveness, and escalating criticisms and demands. Trying to satisfy them can feel impossible, and neither stops abuse, nor produces genuine caring and reciprocity. You end up frustrated and hurt that your feelings and needs are dismissed or ignored. Steadily, your self-esteem, confidence, trust, and independence decline in the relationship, as you give up more of yourself. Whether you want to improve your relationship or are ambivalent about staying or leaving, Dealing with a Narcissist – 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries provides clarity and tools to handle interactions with difficult people. You’ll strengthen your self-esteem and gain the ability to set boundaries and communicate effectively. Eight steps are recommended with specific exercises and techniques, which are applicable to any relationship with a difficult person—whether passive-aggressive, controlling, abusive, manipulative, or with a borderline or narcissistic personality disorder.
5.0 out of 5 stars A Wonderful Source of Information and Wisdom August 11, 2016 By Ponytail Pam
Excellent, clear explanation of the varying degrees of the narcissist and the ways to relate with the individual to protect yourself and be able to thrive. Darlene has a way of imparting information that makes life less puzzling and brings more peace with the wisdom you gain from reading her works. Sometimes you just want someone to give you wise counsel and this book is just that if you have a narcissist in your life.
5.0 out of 5 stars Darlene Lancer helped open my eyes July 18, 2017 By Amazon Customer
Darlene Lancer helped open my eyes to the coping behaviors I adopted as a result of growing up with a narcissistic parent and then drawing in a narcissistic spouse. It definitely takes two hands to clap. I can see how I played into the hands of these unhealthy relationships. Her tools will help tremendously.
5.0 out of 5 stars I contacted the author to tell her that I didn’t know any narcissists January 26, 2018 By Rocio
When I first bought the book I thought I had made a mistake as I intended to get a book to help me deal with difficult people…I contacted the author to tell her that I didn’t know any narcissists…To my surprise a lot of the difficulty I was experiencing with others was related to narcissist traits, including my own. This book is gold and I’ve since been applying the techniques I learned to improve my relationship. The author responded promptly and is not only very knowledgeable but she’s very approachable. I’m on a beautiful journey with myself and thankful for Darlene Lancer for her books. I’m currently reading self esteem book (10 Steps to Self-Esteem) and seeing more positive results in my life. I hope this book helps others who are also suffering and struggling.
5.0 out of 5 stars Absolutely Essential Work! January 19, 2018 By Amir
Another amazing title by Darlene Lancer…the book combines a wonderful range of language for the mental health professional and layperson alike, and the content is delivered in a concise and authoritative writing style that provides both a birds-eye view of the subject and at the same time a thorough and in-depth understanding of the “big picture” and nuances of individuals who exhibit these personality traits, as well as those with whom such individuals may be involved interpersonally, whether as colleagues, acquaintances, friends, or romantic partners.
5.0 out of 5 stars Fantastic, Informative Read!! July 11, 2016, By Laura Stamps
This is an incredibly informative book! Narcissists are masters of emotional abuse. Darlene Lancer not only defines narcissism in this easy-to-use book, but she also covers the various forms of emotional abuse, how to set firm boundaries, and how to effectively deal with the narcissists in your life. Regain your self-esteem, self-worth, and learn how to love yourself again. Grab this book. It’s a treasure!
5.0 out of 5 stars EXCELLENCE AND ENLIGHTENING October 12, 2015, By Xanthin D. Smith
Anything she writes, she writes with excellence and high intelligence. I highly recommend any and all of her great works.
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars February 17, 2016, By Anna
A set of valuable tips for anyone dealing with NPD in relationship.
5.0 out of 5 stars 8 Steps to dealing with a Narcissist December 17, 2015, By Jackie Paulson
Do you want to know how to deal with a Narcissist person? Darlene Lancer will give you 8 steps to raise your self-esteem and set boundaries with difficult people. This book is a self help guide that will help you journal questions and answers to help you with people with personality disorders or even finding out how your childhood could be the cause of your failed relationships in adulthood. Darlene Lancer will ask thought provoking questions, give exercises to help you realize if a loved one is a Narcissist person with traits you will know or not after evaluating your own assessments covered in this book. I have learned more about myself and those around me by reading this book than if I did not. One great lesson is “Don’t Take It Personally.” If you think you or someone you know is a narcissist person, has boundary issues, relationship issues, or a personality disorder then this book will help you learn how to deal with it in 8 easy steps. © 2015 Jackie Paulson
December 15, 2017, By Thomas Grahame
I began to be aware that my wife was narcissistic some years ago , but this book confirms it. What a revelation to know I have not been imagining it or just seeing the bad side of her.
October 17, 2017, By Robert H Sayles
This book . . . has a lot of good information but the 3rd chapter shocked me by telling my story. From the time I met my wife until now. What a revelation that was. I’ve been searching 23 yrs to find out what was wrong with me? I married a narcissistic. Darlene’s books have give me the tools to protect myself.