Dealing with a Narcissist – 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries

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Codependency author and expert Darlene Lancer explains the narcissist’s mind and motives and the personality of their partners. Dealing with a Narcissist reveals the unconscious forces driving their mutual attraction and relationship dynamics and sheds light on the damaging impact narcissists have on their partners and children. This is also workbook with strategies that can improve your self-esteem and help you maintain your self-respect and set boundaries in relationships with addicts, narcissists, or emotionally abusive people.

If you were at first charmed by a narcissist, you soon had to contend with self-centeredness, defensiveness, and escalating criticisms and demands. Trying to satisfy them can feel impossible, and neither stops abuse, nor produces genuine caring and reciprocity. You end up frustrated and hurt that your feelings and needs are dismissed or ignored. Steadily, your self-esteem, confidence, trust, and independence decline in the relationship, as you give up more of yourself. Whether you want to improve your relationship or are ambivalent about staying or leaving, Dealing with a Narcissist – 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries provides clarity and tools to handle interactions with difficult people. You'll strengthen your self-esteem and gain the ability to set boundaries and communicate effectively. Eight steps are recommended with specific exercises and techniques, which are applicable to any relationship with a difficult person—whether passive-aggressive, controlling, abusive, manipulative, or with a borderline or narcissistic personality disorder.

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    This book is an essential addition to the library of every mental health clinician and layperson alike. The language is authoritative, concise, and at the same time, speaks to the reader with a thorough and comprehensive style with a great amount of depth on the subject matter. I particularly enjoyed the book because, among other reasons, everything felt so balanced when reading. . . the book really advocates for the reader and has compassion for the narcissist as well, so that the “work” can be done in a genuine and complete way before a decision is made. A must-read!!!

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    I began to be aware that my wife was narcissistic some years ago , but this book confirms it. What a revelation to know I have not been imagining it or just seeing the bad side of her . I find I am still looking for excuses for her behaviour – bad up-bringing, low self-esteem etc. etc. I now have a choice to stay and work with it / her , or decide that enough is enough and leave , but it isn’t easy either way.

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    After 23 yrs & finally realizing I’ve been w/a passive-aggressive there are more than not characteristics that adds narcissism to the list. Can’t wait to finish this & get the 8 steps moving ’cause I have been withering away & didn’t realize to what extent ’til now. Wow.

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      Knowledge is power. Attend CoDA meetings to for support and/or contact a therapist.

  4. :

    I am in the process of reading this book. It has a lot of good information but the 3rd chapter shocked me by telling my story. From the time I met my wife until now. What a revelation that was. I’ve been searching 23 yrs to find out what was wrong with me? I married a narcissistic. Darlene’s books have give me the tools to protect myself.

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